Friday, May 18, 2018

Overwhelmed By Motherhood?

Do you ever find that the job of being a mother is just too overwhelming? Do you listen to Satan's lies telling you that you just do not measure up?





Being a mom is a lot of work. Luckily, it is a job that we were not expected to take on by ourselves.

When I have times that I feel like I just do not measure up or that I start to listen to Satan's lies, I know that I can seek the Lord for His help.

Lies:


  • "I should be in control." -- Philippians 4:13
  • "My children give me my worth." -- Ephesians 3:17-18
  • "My husband completes me." -- 1 John 3:1


Biblical Truths:


1. Philippians 4:13 NIV I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.

2. Ephesians 3:17-18 NIV so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ,

3. 1 John 3:1 NIV See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.




Psalm 25:4-5 NIV Show me your ways, Lord , teach me your paths.  Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.

Dear Father, thank You for always being there. Father, I confess that in my weakness, I will listen to the lies that Satan pours into my head. Please forgive me. Father, please show me Your ways and teach me Your paths. Guide me in Your truth for You, Father, are my Savior. My hope is in You all day long. Thank You for all that You have done. In Jesus' name, Amen.

You might also enjoy reading:

Need To Improve Your Child's Self Esteem

A Good Friend Motivates

Reduce Sibling Conflict


Your turn:

Do you feel overwhelmed at times with motherhood?
Do you listen to Satan's lies telling you that you just do not measure up?
Do you have any tips/verses that you can share?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister,










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Wednesday, May 16, 2018

A Fruitful Vine + A Bible Study Method

This week, we are looking at the wife in the marriage couple. I am also sharing a Bible Study Method with you that I have used for a long time.



Do you have a favorite way (method) of studying the Bible? I thought we would change things up a little bit. I will share a method with you that works for me. We will apply it to a verse and just see how things go.

You will have to forgive me as this study method does not have an acronym, but it is something that I have used for a very long time.

Bible Study Method


1. Pray

Pray that God will join you during your bible reading time. Ask Him to open your eyes to see what He wants you to see. Ask Him to open your mind and your heart so you can understand what He wants you to know and know how He wants you to apply it to your life.

2. Write

Write the verse(s) that God reveals to you.

3. Ask

Ask questions. Are there things in the verse that you do not understand? Jot that down.

4. Look Up

Look up words in a dictionary and/or thesaurus. Do a cross reference of the verse(s). Look at other bible translations.

5. Paraphrase

Put the verse(s) in your own words. Be careful not to change the meaning.

6. Write/Pray 

Write the verse(s) in a prayer back to the Lord.



This week, for our marriage study, we are looking into Psalm 128:3:

Ready?

Psalm 128:3 NIV Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table.

1. Pray --  Dear Father, please be with me during this bible study time. Father, please open my eyes to see the things that You want to reveal to me in this verse. Please open my mind and my heart so I can understand what You are revealing and know how You want me to apply it to my life.

2. Write the verse out.

3. Ask -- what does it mean that as the wife I will be like a fruitful vine? What does it mean that my children will be like olive shoots?

4. Look up --  fruitful-  producing good results; beneficial; profitable; abounding in fruit, as trees or other plants; bearing fruit abundantly; producing an abundant growth, as of fruit

Synonyms for fruitful - profitable, rewarding, successful, breeding, childing, reproducing

Antonyms for fruitful - unprofitable, barren, unproductive



Cross References:

Genesis 49:22 NIV “Joseph is a fruitful vine, a fruitful vine near a spring, whose branches climb over a wall."

Job 29:5 NIV when the Almighty was still with me and my children were around me,

Psalm 52:8 NIV But I am like an olive tree flourishing in the house of God; I trust in God’s unfailing love for ever and ever.

Other translations of Psalm 128:3:

NLT Your wife will be like a fruitful grapevine, flourishing within your home. Your children will be like vigorous young olive trees as they sit around your table.

CEV Your wife will be as fruitful as a grapevine, and just as an olive tree is rich with olives, your home will be rich with healthy children.

5. Paraphrase  --  As the wife, I will flourish and be fruitful, my children will grow and be healthy.

6. Write/Pray --  Dear Father, thank You for always being there. Thank you for my husband. Father, I pray that I will be fruitful in everything that I do. Help me to always bring honor to You, my husband, my home. Help me to nourish my children on Your word, Lord. I place them in Your hands. I know that they are like healthy olive shoots around my table. Thank You for the grace You have revealed to me in this verse. In Jesus' name, Amen.




You might also enjoy reading:

Wish You Could Change Your Husband

Tips On Forgiving

Don't Leave A Gap

Let Go Of Hurt Feelings


Your turn:

Do you have a favorite Bible study method that you use?
Did you enjoy the method that I shared?
What was your take away from this verse?
If, if did enjoy this method, will you share it?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister,













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Monday, May 14, 2018

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 7

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you were scared, but you knew God had everything under control?



I mentioned in a previous post (God's Unexpected Answer To My Prayers) about an eerie feeling that I had that day. T and I were out on the motorcycle, and I kept feeling like something bad was going to happen. So, I started praying. I covered us in prayer. We were involved in an accident and I knew that God was with us the whole time.

There are other times as well.. like times when I have had to be hospitalized. I would be scared, yes, which would draw me into prayer and then I would have peace.


3 Tips to Help Overcome Anxiety 


1. Draw close to the Lord.

No matter what happens that causes you anxiety, use it to draw closer to the Lord. You are going to worry anyway, turn those worries into prayers. Cover whatever it is that you are anxious about in prayer.

2. God's power is made perfect in weakness.

When we are weak, He is strong. He is there to help carry our load, if we ask Him. We do not have to endure our anxiety alone.

3. When I am weak, seek His word.

When you feel overcome with anxiety, refocus it by seeking Him in His word. Find several verses that speak to you and write them down on index cards. Carry those cards with you and when you start to feel anxious, read those verses.

I hope that you will start to see that the things you worry over, the things that make you anxious are easier to handle. You can face them because you are connected to the source of strength.



Let's read over 2 Corinthians 12:1-10, pray over it and hold it close.

2 Corinthians 12:1-10 ESV
I must go on boasting. Though there is nothing to be gained by it, I will go on to visions and revelations of the Lord. I know a man in Christ who fourteen years ago was caught up to the third heaven—whether in the body or out of the body I do not know, God knows. And I know that this man was caught up into paradise—whether in the body or out of the body I do not know, God knows— and he heard things that cannot be told, which man may not utter. On behalf of this man I will boast, but on my own behalf I will not boast, except of my weaknesses— though if I should wish to boast, I would not be a fool, for I would be speaking the truth; but I refrain from it, so that no one may think more of me than he sees in me or hears from me. So to keep me from becoming conceited because of the surpassing greatness of the revelations, a thorn was given me in the flesh, a messenger of Satan to harass me, to keep me from becoming conceited. But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Dear Father,  thank You for always being with me. Yes, I confess that I struggle with anxiety. I am like Paul in that I have asked You to remove this thorn from my side on many occasions. However, Father, I do understand that You use my weakness to draw me closer to You. I will gladly endure anxiety because I know that when I am afraid, worried, panicky, I run to You. Father, please help me to always run to You when I feel overwhelmed by my anxieties. I know that You are there. Yes, Father, Your grace is sufficient for me and Your power is made perfect in my weakness. Thank You for all that You have done. In Jesus' name, Amen.

You might also enjoy reading:

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 4

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 5

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 6

Your turn:

When you feel overwhelmed by anxiety, how do you cope?
Do you cling all the more on to the Lord for His strength?
Do you have any tips that you can share?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister, 












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Friday, May 11, 2018

Reduce Sibling Conflict

When you have more than one child, you more than likely deal with sibling conflicts. What do you do when these conflicts arise?



I can remember several conflicts between me and my brother, when we were younger. Oh, how he pestered me. How did I handle that conflict? Well, um, I just gave him whatever he wanted so he would leave me alone. I think that is when I learned to do things in order to keep the peace. I did not want him to tackle me, sit on me, punch me (as brothers do), so I tried to just keep the peace.

With my kids, well, to be totally honest, they all got along very well. Yes, there were squabbles from time to time, but they worked it out with little to no help from me.

Taylor and Jacob have always been close. I think it is because they are so close in age <--- 16 months difference. I also think it is because they shared a room for such a long time. If they have disagreements now, they just separate for a while and then they are best friends again.



Reduce Sibling Conflict


1. Do not interfere.

Allow your children to work through the dispute on their own. You may need to offer help to younger children, but be sure that you do not take sides. In order to discipline, take your child to the side to discuss his actions. This will reduce the chances of your child feeling embarrassed.

2. Allow for frustrated feelings.

Allow your children time to vent out any negative feelings that they may have. Share your own experiences with childhood disputes. Listen to what each child has to say and acknowledge their feelings.

3. Compliment good behavior.

Whenever you notice your children getting along well together, draw their attention to it. Offer them encouragement for their behavior.

4. Read Amber's post on All Natural Joy.

She shares a tip that I have never tried, but I am certain will work.




 Proverbs 18:19 NIV  A brother wronged is more unyielding than a fortified city; disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel.

Dear Father, thank You for blessing me with my children. I pray that they will always have a close relationship with You and Your love for them will help them overcome disputes and continue to have a close relationship with each other. Father, help them to work through conflicts so their relationship is strong. Disputes between family and/or friends is like a fortified city with barred gates that keep everyone out. Please help them to avoid this in their relationship. In Jesus' name, Amen.

You might also enjoy reading:

Tips for the Why? Questions

Need To Improve Your Child's Self Esteem

A Good Friend Motivates

Your turn:

How did you handle conflicts with your sibling(s) when you were growing up?
How do you handle conflicts between your children?
Do you have any tips that you can share?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister,












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Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Let Go Of Hurt Feelings

In times when there is tension between you and your husband, do you hold on to hurt, angry feelings? Do you allow the gap between the two of you to grow bigger? Or do you hold on to love and close the gap?



I have to admit that there are times that it would be all too easy to hold on to those hurt, angry feelings. However, stewing in those feelings is not going to help anything or anyone.

We had Taylor's graduation this past weekend. It was a lot of rushing to get things done and a lot of things were said due to stress that did not help a thing.

There was one point where T called me on something that I had said to Jacob. Well, not to Jacob, but in agreement with him. Anyways, I felt completely convicted for what I had done and knew straight up that I needed to apologize to Jacob. However, during this same conversation where T was calling me on something, he ended up getting upset with me and raised his voice at me. He thought I was upset because of him correcting me about Jacob, but I said "no, I was in the wrong about that with Jacob. What bothers me is that you raised your voice at me."

Thinking back on that, I know that I could dwell on it. He felt lead to correct me in something that I had done and I immediately knew that I needed to seek Jacob's forgiveness. When I mention to him that his raising his voice at me is what bothered me.... crickets. But, it is not my job to convict. So, I let it go. It was not anything important.



Let Go of Hurt Feelings


So, how do you let go of hurt, angry feelings? By clinging to the actual source of LOVE.

1. God is LOVE.

Remember that God is Love (1 John 4:7-8). We love because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). The reason we are able to show love to others is because of His love for us.

2. God has forgiven us.

Just as God has forgiven us of our sins, we should forgive each other (Ephesians 4:32).

3. Listen for the Holy Spirit. 

Listen for the gentle nudging of the Holy Spirit. He will give you directions along the right path. All you need to do is listen and follow.



Mark 12:30 NIV
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.

Dear Father, please forgive me. Forgive me for putting my thoughts, my goals, my ambitions above You. Please help me to remember to keep You first and foremost in everything that I do. Help me to grow my relationship with You, Father, so my marriage can become everything that You want it to be. I love You, Lord, with all of my heart, with all of my soul, with all of my mind, and with all of my strength. In Jesus' name, Amen.

You might also enjoy reading:

Don't Be Selfish

Wish You Could Change Your Husband

Tips On Forgiving

Don't Leave A Gap


Your turn:

Do you hold on to hurt, angry feelings?
Do you hold on to love and close the gap between you?
How do you let go of your hurt feelings?
Do you have any tips that you can share?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister,









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Monday, May 7, 2018

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 6

Are you faced with worries? I have put together a few tips to help with worry.


Graduation day is upon us. I am in worry mode right now. Yes, I know, I have told you before that my middle name should be worry.

I am going through my check list as I type this to you. You know the list of things that you "need" to make sure you take with you? However, no matter how many times I go over everything, I am so afraid that I am forgetting something <--- and it will be a big forget.

I know that after reading Susan's post on Carry On My Heart, that I need to learn to "Hug My Cactus".

I have anxiety and depression. They are just a part of who I am. There are days that I have a peace about it, but right here, right now, I am really struggling.



Tips to Help With Worry


1. Recite a favorite verse.

Gather some verses on worry, pick your favorite and keep it close. Memorize it. Turn it into a prayer and pray it to the Lord when you feel anxious.

2. Tell someone close about your worry .

Find someone that you trust, ie. husband, sibling, mother, friend, and talk to them about what is worrying you. <--- Tim's comment is reminding me that all I need is clothes for the ride there, clothes for the ride back, and my pills. We "should" be able to manage everything else.

3. Read the Bible .

Read the Bible for peace and strength.

4. Pray.

Seek the Lord in prayer. He hears you, He is with you, and He will help you.



Let's read over Psalm 46, pray over it and hold it close.

Psalm 46 NIV
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.  Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,  though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging.  There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy place where the Most High dwells.  God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.  Nations are in uproar, kingdoms fall; he lifts his voice, the earth melts.  The Lord Almighty is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress.  Come and see what the Lord has done, the desolations he has brought on the earth.  He makes wars cease to the ends of the earth. He breaks the bow and shatters the spear; he burns the shields with fire.  He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”  The Lord Almighty is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress.

Dear Father,  thank You for always being with me. I know that even though mountains fall, the waters roar, nations are in uproar and kingdoms fail that You are an ever-present help. You are always there so I do not need to fear. Father, You break bows, shatter spears and burn shields with fire. All I am required to do is be still and know that You are God. You are my fortress in times of trouble. Thank You so much. In Jesus' name, Amen.

You might also enjoy reading:

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 3

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 4

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 5

Your turn:

Do you struggle with worry?
Do you have any tips, advice, suggestions that you can share?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister,








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Thursday, May 3, 2018

A Good Friend Motivates

Do your children struggle with making friends? Make sure they understand that a good friend motivates them. I have included tips so you can help them choose friends wisely.



Friendships are a bit challenging for me. As I sit here thinking back to friendships that I had when I was young, I still see how much I struggled to maintain those relationships.

When you look at your children, it is important not to judge the choices that they make and be careful that you do not compare your experiences with friendship choices with those that your children make.

Yes, they may make poor decisions and they may become like those that they spend time with.  Help them to see the hard times that might lay ahead of them if they have friends that do not make the wisest of choices.

I know that some of my friends did drugs. Well, nowadays, this particular one is legalized in some states. However, back in the day, it wasn't. Spending time with these friends could have lead me into trouble, but it didn't. I knew better than to partake in anything that they did. But the possibility for bad choices was there.



Help Your Child Choose Friends Wisely 


1. Keep them grounded in the Word. 

They need a firm foundation, so nourish them with God's Word.

2. Talk to them about peer pressure.

Explain to your child that someone, at some point, is going to say, " It is cool to smoke; do drugs; lie." Then go as far as to explain what the consequences might be for such actions.

3. Good friends motivate you.

Make sure your child knows that a good friend motivates. He is there to encourage the best out of your child. Like for instance, reminding your child to study for an upcoming test; to go out for a sport, etc. A good friend will not lead you down the wrong path.



Proverbs 12:26 NIRV
Godly people are careful about the friends they choose. But the way of sinners leads them down the wrong path.


Dear Father,  I lift my children up to You. I pray that You will surround them with wise friends. Help my children to remember that a good friend motivates them to do their best. A good friend is one that knows and follows Your will, Father, and encourages the same from them. Keep them safe from those that will try to lead them down the wrong path. Thank You for all that You do. In Jesus' name, Amen.

You might also enjoy reading:

Don't Forget To Absorb

 Lay A Firm Foundation For Your Child

Tips for the Why? Questions

Need To Improve Your Child's Self Esteem?

Your turn:

Did you struggle, as a child, with making friends?
Does your child struggle?
Do you have any tips that you can share to help children with making friends?
How can I pray for you today?

Please leave a comment below and know, that if you will allow it,  I am happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister,










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