Monday, April 30, 2018

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 5

In facing anxiety, it is important to cling to God. Trust in Him and He will give you peace.








How do you handle the dreaded middle of the night call? You know the one that I am referring to, especially if you have children.



The call was from our youngest son, Jacob. "Hey, can you come and get me? I have been in an accident."



Once Tim had left, I lay there in bed crying and praying. I felt like we were under attack and I was starting to panic. The thought made me cry even more.











All of a sudden, it just hit me; it was like a light being switched on. Yes, we were being attacked. Jacob and I are both trying to live according to God's will for our lives and it is getting someone's attention. Granted, I would rather not have his attention, however, it means that we must be doing something right.



Once that thought registered in my mind and my heart, I felt completely at peace. My prayers changed to praise and thanksgiving.



Finding Peace  




1. Slow down.  When anxiety hits, slow down your thoughts. Try to really see what is happening and not allow your emotions to sweep you away.


2. Focus on your breathing.  Focus on your breathing for a few minutes. Allow yourself to take several deep belly breaths until you find that you are feeling less anxious.


3. Be in the moment.  Fully be in the moment so that you are able to understand what it is that brought on the anxiety to begin with. <-- for me, it was realizing that Jacob and I have gotten the evil one's attention.


4. Ask God for His peace.  Remember that God is always there. If you ask Him for His peace, He will give it to you.











Let's read over Proverbs 3:5-8, pray over it and hold it close.



Proverbs 3:5-8 NLT 



Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom. Instead, fear the Lord and turn away from evil. Then you will have healing for your body and strength for your bones.



Let's Pray:



Dear Father,  thank You for always being with me. When I feel anxious, I know that You are there. Please help me to trust in You with all of my heart and not to rely on my own understanding. Father, help me to seek your will in everything that I do and to trust that You will show me which path I should take. Help me to lean on You and not on my own wisdom. I live in respect and fear of You, Lord. Please heal my wounds and ease all of my pains. In Jesus' name, Amen.











Facing Anxiety With Scripture


Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 2


Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 3


Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 4














What do you do to find peace when you are anxious?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.










Friday, April 27, 2018

Need To Improve Your Child's Self Esteem?

Encourage good behavior in your children and help their self esteem.



Let's work on being intentional about focusing on the positive behavior we witness in our children. As I sit here thinking about this, I am struck by just how easy it is to focus on the negativity.

It is oh so easy to see the flaws of someone and dwell on them. However, I really feel the need to find positive aspects to focus on. Good things that are done that, more often than not, go unnoticed. Find those good things that are being done, call attention to them, let your children know how thankful you are for whatever they have done.

Jacob is my "Messy Marvin". His room usually looks like a Tasmanian devil has just torn through the place. Whenever he comes out in to the kitchen, living room, laundry room it always looks like things have exploded after he has left the area.

See how easy it is to see someone's flaws? I do have to admit that Jacob has been "cleaning up his act". He has started reading the Bible, asking me questions pertaining to the Bible and has felt lead to clean his room. I am so proud of him. What is more important? I have been sure to tell him how proud I am of him :).



I want to make sure to encourage him and by letting him know that I am proud of him and his efforts to clean goes a long way in that direction. Mentioning how proud I am of him or thanking him for positive actions will also help with his self esteem. I want to be heard building him up; not tearing him down. Make sense?

I do know that there will be times when you will need to correct a negative behavior. When those times arise, be sure that your correction; your guidance comes from love and not from anger.



Ways to Offer Encouragement 


1. Keep on trying . Let your child know that even when something does not work out like he thought it would, he can keep on trying. Like maybe your child is trying to learn the clarinet and no matter how much he practices, he feels that he is not getting any better.

2. You figured it out . Once your child accomplishes a task that she has struggled with, celebrate with her.

3. Thank you . Thank your child for something that he has done.  Maybe he helped you to do the dishes, maybe he cleaned his room; let him know that you appreciate his help.

4. I love you. Let your child know that she is loved.

Proverbs 3:27 ESV
Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it.

Dear Father,  please give me new eyes to see my child (ren) the way that You see them. Please help me to look for the positive behavior and to offer encouragement whenever I find it. Father, I want my child to hear me building him up with my words, not tearing him down. Thank You for presenting this opportunity. In Jesus' name, Amen.

You might also enjoy reading:

Don't Forget To Absorb

Lay A Firm Foundation For Your Child

Tips for the Why? Questions

Your turn:

I want to challenge you to not get pulled into the negativity. It is really easy to do. Look for those positive moments, and encourage more of them. Be your child's cheerleader. Do you have any encouragement tips that you can share? Please leave a comment below. Let me know how I can pray for you today. If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister,




Wednesday, April 25, 2018

Tips On Forgiving

Do you and your husband often step on each other's toes? It is easy to say careless little comments, without thinking, that hurt the other person.









Tim is on call this week for work. This means that he has to be prepared to drop everything and give his full attention to work problems as they arise. Saturday night, he had planned things that needed tending to that kept him up until around midnight.




Shortly after he got in to bed, he got a call from Jacob letting him know that he had been in an accident and needed a ride home. Jacob is fine and so are the kids from the other car. However, this meant that Tim didn't get back to bed until 2 ish and it took him a long time to fall asleep.




All day Sunday, he had a short temper. He was so tired and felt like there was so much that he needed to remember to do. After all of our running, he was so tired and he could not think of what he wanted to eat. Then I remembered that I had saved some soup, that I cooked on Friday, just for him. I told him that he could have that. His response was that he really wanted a "good home cooked meal".




Okay, I am not going to lie, that statement was like a punch in my gut. It hurt me. To me, he had just said that my soup, which he had liked two days ago, was not a good meal.



Better To Forgive And Let It Go





He finally told me that he had something in mind that he wanted to make over the weekend, but he was so tired. I told him that was why I was trying to be helpful and suggest things that he could have. He told me he was sorry, we hugged a great big hug and moved on.




Oh, it would have been so easy to hold on to those hurt feelings. My emotions were already raw after Jacob's accident. However, it was better to forgive him and let it go.








Tips On Forgiving  





1.  Try to put yourself in your husband's shoes for a few minutes. Look at everything that lead up to the careless comment.




2.  Remember that through Jesus, you have been forgiven. That is a big one for me. It is usually the one that hits home and helps me to refocus.




3.  Remember that your husband does love you. Show him love and overlook, let go, and forgive the careless comment.




4.  Hug. It is beneficial for both of you.





Ephesians 4:32 ERV 




Be kind and loving to each other. Forgive each other the same as God forgave you through Christ.










Let's Pray:



Dear Father, 




Thank You for always being there. Thank You for loving me so much that You put my husband in my life. Father, I pray that You will help me to be loving and compassionate towards him. Whenever things happen that hurt my feelings, help me to always forgive him just as through Jesus, You have forgiven me. Thank You for all that You have done. In Jesus' name, Amen.













Don't Be Selfish


Wish You Could Change Your Husband











Do you and your husband often step on each other's toes?
It is easy to say careless little comments, without thinking, that hurt the other person.
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.























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Monday, April 23, 2018

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 4

What is something that causes you anxiety? Where do you turn for help?











A big factor for me is doctor appointments. I get anxious at the thought of just having to make an appointment.



I think it has a lot to do with the fact that we hurry up so we can arrive early. However, nine times out of ten, things are behind at the doctor's office, so we have to wait.



The Issue At Hand 




Then, finally, I get called back only to be made to feel that I am on a very limited timeline. I try to express what is going on with me that is causing me concern and end up feeling like nobody is listening. I would get more attention from the brick wall.



Before I am ready, the appointment is over. I am being walked out and most of my concerns have not been explained in a way that helps me to feel any better.



It is so easy, with anxiety, to focus on the issue at hand. Instead, we need to look to the One who is in control.



Let's read over Philippians 4:4-7, pray over it and hold it close.



Philippians 4:4-7 ESV 



Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.









Here are the same verses in the NLT translation:


Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again—rejoice! Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon. Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.



8 Steps To Fighting Anxiety 




1. Be joyful in the Lord. Rejoice in Him.
2. Be considerate, reasonable, gentle to others.
3. The Lord is coming soon.
4. Do not be anxious or worry about anything.
5. Pray about everything.
6. Tell God what you need.
7. Thank Him for all that He has done.
8. God's peace will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.








Let's Pray:




Dear Father, thank You for always being there. Please help me to remember to focus on You, rejoice in You and not to focus on the upcoming event that causes me distress. Help me to remember that You are the One that is in control and that by focusing on the situation at hand can in turn cause me distress. Help me, instead to cling all the more to You. Father, yes, I worry and become anxious over things. Please forgive me. Thank You for always being with me and helping me through stressful times. Please fill me with Your peace that transcends understanding. In Jesus' name, Amen.










 Facing Anxiety With Scripture


Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 2


Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 3









What is something that causes you anxiety?
Is there an upcoming event that is causing you distress?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.























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Friday, April 20, 2018

Tips For The Why? Questions

I do not handle change very well. When I know that an event is on the horizon, I need to "try" to plan accordingly. This is not always an easy task for me to do.

For instance, Taylor is graduating from Tech on the 5th (just a few short weeks away), so I need to be prepared. I try to think, in advance about making sure I have enough hydrocortisone with me. Oh and I also want to make sure that I take extra during that time.

Another thing that I need to figure out is my sensory overload issues. What do I need to carry with me, just in case I need it?



Yes, I can over plan things, but I would rather have too much of something than not enough. What hits me square in the face with all of this is how I seem to think I have any control over anything. God is in control of my life and I would not have it any other way.

The question I am thinking about today is what about our children? Will they be over planners like me? How will they handle things when/if those plans do not work out the way that they thought they would?

It is important to remember (me as well as the children), that God's plans are the ones that matter. He is the One that is in control.

So how do you, as a mama, handle the "why?" questions from the kids when the things they have planned for do not work out?



Tips For The Why? Questions 


1. Be honest with the children. Let them know that you cannot explain why things did not work out.

2. Pray with the children. Seek His guidance and understanding. Ask Him to reveal Himself to you.

3. Talk with them about Job and his suffering. What your children feel as a trial now, that they cannot understand, God has a reason for and He doesn't need to explain the "why's" behind what He does.

Proverbs 21:30 NLT

No human wisdom or understanding or plan can stand against the Lord .

Dear Father, thank You for being in control of my life. Father, yes, I confess that I am an over planner. I worry over things. Please forgive me for this. Help me to know and understand that Your ways are not my ways. It does not matter what wisdom, understanding, or planning I have or that I put towards something, You are in control; not me. I pray that Your will be done; not mine. In Jesus' name, Amen.

You might also enjoy reading:

Lay A Firm Foundation For Your Children

Your turn:

How can I be praying for you today?

Do you have any tips to share that might help with the "why" questions that children Ask? Please respond below.

If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister,


Wednesday, April 18, 2018

Wish You Could Change Your Husband?

Are there things about your husband that you wish you could change? Do you understand that God made him the way he is for a reason?








Be honest, there are certain things about your husband that you wish you could change. Am I right? I have to admit, that yes, there are certain things that I have thought, "you know, if I keep doing this long enough, he is bound to change."



To Change Or To Control




I know that is a control thing and if I am completely honest here, I never thought of myself as controlling. Oh, I do not want his personality to change, but, little things like actually getting his dirty clothes into the dirty clothes bucket. Or if he takes the lid off of the garbage pail because it is too full, then go ahead and gather it up.






I am learning, yes still, even after 30 years of marriage, that we are to be accepting of one another. In marriage, as with any relationship, you are going to get on each other's nerves, step on one another's toes, etc. However, to be accepting of one another is to overlook all of that. You love your husband, warts and all as hopefully, he does you.









Romans 15:7 NLT 



Therefore, accept each other just as Christ has accepted you so that God will be given glory.




The thing that I need to remember is that just like me, T is perfectly imperfect. I need new eyes to see him the way that God sees him so I do not always see the things that gets on my nerves. I need new eyes to see the best parts of him and not get bogged down in other areas.



Show Compassion And Forgiveness 





God is the only one that will ever be able to love us unconditionally. He is love; after all. We love because He first loved us. We have the ability to show love and compassion to others because He, Himself loves us. He loves us so much that He sent Jesus to die on the cross for our sins. If you believe this to be true, then you know that your sins have been forgiven. God loves us that much. He forgave our many sins. To show our love for Him, we need to show the same forgiveness to those in our lives.









Let's Pray: 




Dear Father,  




Thank You so much for my husband. I honestly don't know where I would be without him in my life. Father, please forgive me for the times that I have tried to be controlling. Forgive me for thinking that I can change him in any way. Please give me new eyes to see him the way that You do. Help me to be as loving, accepting, forgiving, compassionate towards him as You are towards me. Thank You for loving me so much that You sent Jesus to die for me. In Jesus' name, Amen.














7 Verses To Pray Over Your Marriage


 Is Your Marriage Normal or Weird


 Do You Do This In Your Marriage?


 Keep Your Marriage On The Rock


Patient and Listening Heart


 Don't Be Selfish












Are there things about your husband that you wish you could change?
Do you understand that God made him the way he is for a reason?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.



















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Monday, April 16, 2018

Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt. 3

Is worry weighing heavy on your heart? Do you have a knot of anxiety in your stomach?







June 4, 2011 was the day that Phillip loaded up his car and drove two states away. We were trying to encourage him to think about getting his own place or, in my opinion, the better option, to pay us a little each month towards groceries. I was really wanting him to decide to pay us money to help with groceries.



Very Humbling Experience 





God had other plans. He used that time to draw me closer to Himself by humbling me. You see, I was under the impression that because I was the mama, I had control. Ha! That was a hard learning experience for me.




I spent a lot of time crying and a lot of time worrying over my child. He was going so far away. What if he needed me? Would he be able to find a job? Would he have a place to live? Would he eat? Worry should have been my middle name.




It took me a while, but with time and a lot of prayer, I finally got to the point that I could untighten the knot in my stomach. I learned that while, yes, I am the mama of this child, God is in control of him and his life. I had to let go and trust Him to take care of everything.










That was very humbling for me. God blessed me with that child for those short years, now it is in His hands. But, of course, He had always been in control. He just opened my eyes and helped me to see it better.




According to dictionary.com, humble means not proud or arrogant; modest. Having a feeling of insignificance, inferiority, subservience. Low in rank, importance, status, quality; lowly. Courteously respectful. Low in height, level; small in size. To lower in condition, importance, or dignity; abase. To destroy the independence, power, or will of. To make meek.




Let's read over 1 Peter 5:5-11 GNT, pray over it and hold it close.










In the same way you younger people must submit yourselves to your elders. And all of you must put on the apron of humility, to serve one another; for the scripture says, “God resists the proud, but shows favor to the humble.” Humble yourselves, then, under God's mighty hand, so that he will lift you up in his own good time. Leave all your worries with him, because he cares for you.  Be alert, be on watch! Your enemy, the Devil, roams around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. Be firm in your faith and resist him, because you know that other believers in all the world are going through the same kind of sufferings. But after you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who calls you to share his eternal glory in union with Christ, will himself perfect you and give you firmness, strength, and a sure foundation. To him be the power forever! Amen.




Did you catch all of that? Let's look at it in another way.



4 Steps To  Untighten The Knot Of Anxiety 



1. Humble yourself under God's hand. 



Why? So He can lift you up again in His own time.



2. Leave your worries; your anxieties with God. 



Why? Because He cares about you.



3. Stand firm in your faith.  



Why? Because you know that there are other believers around the world that are going through the same kinds of sufferings.



4. Stay strong while you are suffering. 



Why? Because you know that after you have suffered a little while, God will personally perfect you, give you firmness, strength, and a sure foundation.









Prayer 




Dear Father, I pray that You will help me to humble myself under Your mighty hand and wait for You to lift me up again in Your own time. Father, please help me to leave all of my worries with You because I know that You care about me. Help me to ever be on alert and on watch because the evil one is prowling around like a lion looking for someone to devour. Help me to stand firm in my faith and resist him because I know that there are others around the world that are going through the same kinds of sufferings. Help me to remember that after I have suffered for a little while, You, the God of all grace, who calls me to share in union with Christ, will personally restore me, make me strong and give me a sure foundation. To You be the glory and power forever. In Jesus' name, Amen.












Facing Anxiety With Scripture pt 2


Facing Anxiety With Scripture












Is worry weighing heavy on your heart today?
I challenge you to spend time this next week memorizing 1 Peter 5:5-11.
Write the verses down on an index card and keep it with you.
If you keep a journal, I encourage you to write these verses in there as well. Hold them close. Write down any insight that the Lord reveals to you.




How I can pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.





















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Wednesday, April 11, 2018

Don't Be Selfish

Do you and your husband argue over household chores? Does it cause you distress if your husband doesn't clean up after himself?







And there the dishes sit. They have been sitting in the sink for 3 days now. Tim got home the other evening and prepared himself a meal, but he did not wash his dishes when he was done.



Be Humble




Okay, I could sit here with hurt feelings because now that time has gone by, more dishes have accumulated, but I will not do that. Why? Well, I need to try and consider him as more important than I am. I need to think over everything that lead to those dishes sitting in the sink.




You see, since I tend to deal with low blood sugar issues, he lets me prepare something to eat and eat it before he ever gets home. So, this allows me to have my big meal of the day as my lunch. This also means that I am not in the middle of trying to cook when everyone is getting home, the dogs are going bonkers and my stress level is through the roof.  Just easier on me all the way around.




Now, this means that once T gets home, he has to prepare something for himself if he wants to have dinner. Or I will have left overs from my lunch that he can have. Since he goes off to work every day and allows me to stay home, I can overlook a few dishes in the sink.




I do not want to be considered as selfish in his eyes or in God's eyes, for that matter. I want to help carry his burdens and not add to them, right? If I got on to him for not doing his dishes, it does make me seem selfish and my chastisement could add to stress that he may already be dealing with from work.







Consider Others First




1. Look for ways to build your husband up.




 Be a source of encouragement to him. Be his cheerleader.




2. Seek out opportunities to praise your husband in public. 




Avoid tearing him down in front of your friends, or his. Build him up.




3. Look for things that your husband does well.  




Ask God to open your eyes and reveal the best qualities of your husband to you. Once God reveals these areas, spend time letting your husband know how much you appreciate him and build him up.





Philippians 2:3 GNT 




Don't do anything from selfish ambition or from a cheap desire to boast, but be humble toward one another, always considering others better than yourselves.



Dear Father, 




Thank You for all that You do. Thank You for putting my husband in my life. I do not know where I would be without him. Father, please help me not to do anything out of selfish ambition, but instead to be humble in what I do toward my husband and always to consider him as better than myself. Father, this is an area that I know I need Your help with. I place it in Your hands and pray that Your will be done. In Jesus' name, Amen.








1 Corinthians 13:4 GNT 




Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud;




Dear Father, 



Please help me to remember that all love comes from You because You are love. I am able to show love to my husband because You first loved me. Help me to be patient and kind towards him, not jealous, conceited or proud. I want to build him up and encourage him, Father. Thank You for all that You do. In Jesus' name, Amen.












7 Verses To Pray Over Your Marriage


Is Your Marriage Normal or Weird?


Do You Do This In Your Marriage?


Keep Your Marriage On The Rock


Patient and Listening Heart












Do you and your husband argue over household chores?
If those dishes were piling up in your sink, would it cause you distress?
How I can pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

























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Guard Your Mouth

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you blurt out the first thing that comes to your mind? Then, once you have said whatever ...