Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Let Go Of Hurt Feelings

In times when there is tension between you and your husband, do you hold on to hurt, angry feelings? Do you allow the gap between the two of you to grow bigger? Or do you hold on to love and close the gap?



I have to admit that there are times that it would be all too easy to hold on to those hurt, angry feelings. However, stewing in those feelings is not going to help anything or anyone.

We had Taylor's graduation this past weekend. It was a lot of rushing to get things done and a lot of things were said due to stress that did not help a thing.

There was one point where T called me on something that I had said to Jacob. Well, not to Jacob, but in agreement with him. Anyways, I felt completely convicted for what I had done and knew straight up that I needed to apologize to Jacob. However, during this same conversation where T was calling me on something, he ended up getting upset with me and raised his voice at me. He thought I was upset because of him correcting me about Jacob, but I said "no, I was in the wrong about that with Jacob. What bothers me is that you raised your voice at me."

Thinking back on that, I know that I could dwell on it. He felt lead to correct me in something that I had done and I immediately knew that I needed to seek Jacob's forgiveness. When I mention to him that his raising his voice at me is what bothered me.... crickets. But, it is not my job to convict. So, I let it go. It was not anything important.



Let Go of Hurt Feelings


So, how do you let go of hurt, angry feelings? By clinging to the actual source of LOVE.

1. God is LOVE.

Remember that God is Love (1 John 4:7-8). We love because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). The reason we are able to show love to others is because of His love for us.

2. God has forgiven us.

Just as God has forgiven us of our sins, we should forgive each other (Ephesians 4:32).

3. Listen for the Holy Spirit. 

Listen for the gentle nudging of the Holy Spirit. He will give you directions along the right path. All you need to do is listen and follow.



Mark 12:30 NIV
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.

Dear Father, please forgive me. Forgive me for putting my thoughts, my goals, my ambitions above You. Please help me to remember to keep You first and foremost in everything that I do. Help me to grow my relationship with You, Father, so my marriage can become everything that You want it to be. I love You, Lord, with all of my heart, with all of my soul, with all of my mind, and with all of my strength. In Jesus' name, Amen.

You might also enjoy reading:

Don't Be Selfish

Wish You Could Change Your Husband

Tips On Forgiving

Don't Leave A Gap


Your turn:

Do you hold on to hurt, angry feelings?
Do you hold on to love and close the gap between you?
How do you let go of your hurt feelings?
Do you have any tips that you can share?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister,









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