Friday, May 11, 2018

Reduce Sibling Conflict

When you have more than one child, you more than likely deal with sibling conflicts. What do you do when these conflicts arise?

I can remember several conflicts between me and my brother, when we were younger. Oh, how he pestered me. How did I handle that conflict? Well, um, I just gave him whatever he wanted so he would leave me alone. I think that is when I learned to do things in order to keep the peace. I did not want him to tackle me, sit on me, punch me (as brothers do), so I tried to just keep the peace.

With my kids, well, to be totally honest, they all got along very well. Yes, there were squabbles from time to time, but they worked it out with little to no help from me.

Taylor and Jacob have always been close. I think it is because they are so close in age <--- 16 months difference. I also think it is because they shared a room for such a long time. If they have disagreements now, they just separate for a while and then they are best friends again.

Reduce Sibling Conflict

1. Do not interfere.

Allow your children to work through the dispute on their own. You may need to offer help to younger children, but be sure that you do not take sides. In order to discipline, take your child to the side to discuss his actions. This will reduce the chances of your child feeling embarrassed.

2. Allow for frustrated feelings.

Allow your children time to vent out any negative feelings that they may have. Share your own experiences with childhood disputes. Listen to what each child has to say and acknowledge their feelings.

3. Compliment good behavior.

Whenever you notice your children getting along well together, draw their attention to it. Offer them encouragement for their behavior.

4. Read Amber's post on All Natural Joy.

She shares a tip that I have never tried, but I am certain will work.

 Proverbs 18:19 NIV  A brother wronged is more unyielding than a fortified city; disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel.

Dear Father, thank You for blessing me with my children. I pray that they will always have a close relationship with You and Your love for them will help them overcome disputes and continue to have a close relationship with each other. Father, help them to work through conflicts so their relationship is strong. Disputes between family and/or friends is like a fortified city with barred gates that keep everyone out. Please help them to avoid this in their relationship. In Jesus' name, Amen.

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Your turn:

How did you handle conflicts with your sibling(s) when you were growing up?
How do you handle conflicts between your children?
Do you have any tips that you can share?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

Your Sister,

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